Like the poet Rumi once said:
~ ’The wound is where light enters’ ~
As an Ethiopian repatriated adoptee, I faced many issues like other diaspora do, with uprooting, reintegration and the need to belong. However, because of my culture and language barriers, I am still often viewed as a foreigner at ‘home’. Hence, I often feel misunderstood. The negative branding of Ethiopia in the media, added to low self-esteem. The victim and scarcity mentality have been much more of a hurdle than any other life challenge… Childhood trauma and the stories we identify with sub-consciously, end up controlling our lives and withhold us from reaching our full potential. The steps below continue to contribute to my healing journey.
- Expand in gratitude
Pain can take a toll on your mind, emotions, immune system and finances. Support your healing process, but do not get identified with the pain. There is more to you than an experience. Constantly talking about a negative situation, gives it more power. Focus in gratitude to expand the positive.
2. Use the elements
Take your power back by engaging in routines that help you feel nurtured. To de-stress, nature is highly effective. Ground your energy by practicing yoga on the grass. To purify, shower in spring water. Breathe deeply to center. Try early morning sunbathing to recharge. Figure out what makes you feel good… and just do it!
3. Reprogram and Focus
It’s important not to get your value, wrapped up with your financial status, educational level, language skills or exposure. It’s essential to celebrate your uniqueness. To rewire, meditate and write a list of what you want and can do NOW, with the resources at hand. Count your blessings. Repeat positive habits for 21 days to normalize.
4. Dream Big.
Keep your eyes on what you want to see manifest! Realize that the rat race is not the most sustainable path. Rethink what you really want in life. Don’t shrink yourself. Let your setbacks become your divine stepping stones to dream bigger and better!